An open letter to the pervert’s fiance

(A warning ahead of time, this letter is graphic in regards to sexual abuse and human anatomy, read on with caution if you’re sensitive to such material).

I don’t know your name, so I’ll call you TF. TF, you were the fiance of the man who sexually abused me as a teenager. TF, your husband-to-be asked a girl who was only fourteen years old for nude photos of their breasts and genitals. TF, your husband-to-be asked to be sent graphic emails detailing sexual experiences between himself and me as his fantasies when I was fifteen years old. TF, your husband-to-be would want to write extremely sexually explicit stories and wanted me to masturbate to said stories. He even sent me instructions on “how to masturbate”. I was only sixteen.

I wish I knew who you were so I could actually email you and tell you this. Were you aware of your husband sexually preying on a minor? By all accounts, I was a minor and if I reported your fiance to the police, he surely would have been charged with a minimum of sexual harassment and/or sexual exploitation of a minor. At worst, he would have had to spend time in jail and register as a sex offender. Your country’s age of majority is twenty-one years old, and I was way below that age. I was not an adult in my country or your country. I was 14–16 years old when this happened. I didn’t know what I was doing or reading (and I thank God above I never did what your fiance instructed me to do so over the emails).

I wish to God I told my parents about the incident when it happened. I wish to God I could have told you when it happened, but I don’t think you would have believed me then and possibly not now either. Who wants to get a phone call or email accusing their fiance of sexual abuse that occurred about a decade ago?

The thing is, I don’t think it was only me he did this to. I was stupid enough to give his information to someone I knew and about a day later I got a text message from them saying “He’s a sick pervert”. Your fiance jacked off to an actual teenager’s breasts. Your fiance jacked off to explicit sexual fantasies involving a fourteen year old girlwhen he was in his twenties, knowing fully well that the person was only fourteen years old.

Your fiance is sickening and I wish to God you never went through with the marriage. If you did, God help you if you ever have children. I hope you can get yourself to a safe location away from him if you found out about this “dirty little secret” he had. I hope another victim came forward and told you that he sexually exploited minors. I do not forgive him, but I feel awful for you.

Sincerely,

A girl who kept this inside for over a decade and had dissociative episodes because of your child sex fantasizer fiance

I’m a queer adopted healthcare worker who writers in their spare time. I have a MPH degree.

I’m a queer adopted healthcare worker who writers in their spare time. I have a MPH degree.